Many potential clients come in for a consultation once they have been served with divorce papers or already moved out of their home. Often if not always, there are clear signs that a marriage is in trouble and that divorce may be imminent. As with most other aspects of your life, having information prior to making a decision or taking action is helpful.
Most people are familiar with the adage, “If you don’t know where you’re going, any road will take you there”. The same is true for divorce. Divorce is a process and an event which can and should be planned for. In order to plan you need information.
The best way to get that information is to sit down with a divorce attorney and tell them your story and provide them with your financial and other relevant information. An attorney familiar with matrimonial law in New York should be able to advise you and guide you on how to behave and your decision making during the time you are contemplating divorce.
Let’s take the example of a man who has not been faithful. He feels guilty and his wife tells him that he should move out of the house. He has a choice whether to stay in the house or not, and it is his decision. It is a major decision with major consequences. After speaking with an attorney, that man will be able to make a better decision, fully aware of all the consequences he may face.
Another example could be a wife who feels that she would like to end the marriage not because of infidelity but due to growing apart. She feels that she would be happier if she left the marriage, but after speaking with an attorney who explains the financial consequences of her leaving at that time, she may decide that after all she will not be happier and it’s worth staying a while longer and trying to work on the marriage.
Most people who get divorced do so because they feel they will be in a better position and have a better life afterward. Many set off on the road full of hope but without a map. Having a consultation does not mean you are setting off on the road, you are only finding out the itinerary and what you can expect. You can always choose not to take the trip.
Deborah E. Kaminetzky, Esq.
Kaminetzky Law & Mediation, P.C.
132 Spruce Street
Cedarhurst, New York 11516