Why You Should Consult with an Attorney Prior to Deciding to Divorce

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Why You Should Consult with an Attorney Prior to Deciding to Divorce

Why You Should Consult with an Attorney Prior to Deciding to Divorce by Deborah E. Kaminetzky

Many potential clients come in for a consultation once they have been served with divorce papers or already moved out of their home. Often if not always, there are clear signs that a marriage is in trouble and that divorce may be imminent. As with most other aspects of your life, having information prior to making a decision or taking action is helpful.

Most people are familiar with the adage, “If you don’t know where you’re going, any road will take you there”. The same is true for divorce. Divorce is a process and an event which can and should be planned for. In order to plan you need information.

The best way to get that information is to sit down with a divorce attorney and tell them your story and provide them with your financial and other relevant information. An attorney familiar with matrimonial law in New York should be able to advise you and guide you on how to behave and your decision making during the time you are contemplating divorce.

Let’s take the example of a man who has not been faithful. He feels guilty and his wife tells him that he should move out of the house. He has a choice whether to stay in the house or not, and it is his decision. It is a major decision with major consequences. After speaking with an attorney, that man will be able to make a better decision, fully aware of all the consequences he may face.

Another example could be a wife who feels that she would like to end the marriage not because of infidelity but due to growing apart. She feels that she would be happier if she left the marriage, but after speaking with an attorney who explains the financial consequences of her leaving at that time, she may decide that after all she will not be happier and it’s worth staying a while longer and trying to work on the marriage.

Most people who get divorced do so because they feel they will be in a better position and have a better life afterward. Many set off on the road full of hope but without a map. Having a consultation does not mean you are setting off on the road, you are only finding out the itinerary and what you can expect. You can always choose not to take the trip.

Deborah E. Kaminetzky


Deborah E. Kaminetzky, Esq.
Kaminetzky Law & Mediation, P.C.
132 Spruce Street
Cedarhurst, New York 11516
Phone: 516.374.0074

By | 2019-05-15T12:54:34+00:00 January 17th, 2019|Divorce Law, Mediation|Comments Off on Why You Should Consult with an Attorney Prior to Deciding to Divorce

About the Author:

Deborah E. Kaminetzky
Deborah E. Kaminetzky is the founder of Kaminetzky Law & Mediation, P.C. located in Long Beach, New York. Prior to starting the firm Deborah worked at a Long Island firm where she learned the practice of Matrimonial and Family law and Estate Planning. Deborah has also worked at the New York City Department of Consumer Affairs where she was responsible for prosecuting unlicensed home improvement contractors and negotiating settlements for consumers. Prior to practicing law, Ms. Kaminetzky was the president of a commercial property management corporation in the New York Metro area. Ms. Kaminetzky is a member of the National Association of Divorce Professionals, New York State Council on Divorce Mediation, Family and Divorce Mediation Council of Greater New York, New York State Bar Association (Business Law, Estate, Family Law, ADR and General Practice Sections), Nassau County Bar Association (where she serves as Chair of the General, Solo and Practice Management Committee and The Nassau County Women’s Bar Association. Ms. Kaminetzky was appointed to the Committee on Law Practice Management of the New York State Bar Association in 2015 and has been a frequent speaker and author of articles for their journal. Ms. Kaminetzky serves on the Board of Directors of the Yashar Attorney and Judges Chapter of Hadassah as a their Treasurer, and was their Woman of the Year 2012 and Leadership award honoree in 2019. Deborah graduated from New York Law School in 1991 and the University of Michigan, Ann Arbor in 1986. Ms. Kaminetzky was admitted to the First Department in 1991 and the United States Supreme Court Bar in February of 2015. Deborah is on the Matrimonial fee dispute arbitration panel for Nassau County. She expanded her alternative dispute resolution practice by completing a Mediation certificate program in December of 2013, an advanced Mediation certificate program in 2015 and most recently a Divorce Mediation certificate in early 2016 from The New York Peace Institute. Ms. Kaminetzky has spoken to various groups on topics including matrimonial law, technology and social media use, and disaster preparedness for business including cybersecurity.