Divorce Mediation

Divorce & Family Mediation

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Mediation the peaceful alternative

When you’re in need of divorce mediation, you can trust  Kaminetzky Law & Mediation, P.C. to keep you informed during the entire process. We recognize that divorce and other family issues are difficult and that you need an experienced lawyer or mediator to guide you through them. Our firm has extensive experience in matrimonial law and mediation and will consider  all your needs whether sufficient child support or a comfortable retirement is on your mind. We will work hard to thoroughly address all issues at hand, resolve personal issues and secure a safe financial future. For more information regarding how we can help you, check out our frequently asked questions and blog posts below, or contact us for a consultation to discuss your unique case in more detail.

Get answers to your divorce questions

Yes! You can, whether you should is another matter. One reason for choosing mediation is that it can cost significantly less than the litigated process. Another is that it is often faster. Part of the reason for both is that one mediator is guiding the parties to a self-determined agreement. Although our office suggests that each party have an attorney review the agreement either at the end or during the process (a consulting attorney), having attorneys present during the mediation sessions may not be a productive use of time and money.

Maybe! If moving is not in your agreement and there are children under 18 you may need a court order. This is the type of question many clients think of only after the divorce is final and they have their judgment of divorce in hand. A good attorney or mediator will try to bring up as many issues as can be anticipated so that everything gets addressed within the divorce action or agreement, and you can get on with your life with as few regrets as possible!

No! you can file in your county or in the county where the attorney or mediator practices. Clients frequently ask about choice of venue. At this time in New York, we can file based on convenience CPLR Section 509. There is a bill in committee in the NY State Senate which could change that.

Yes! You can skip an appraisal. As with so many things in life, just because you can doesn’t mean you should. Many of our clients find appraisals really helpful for their mediation in that they can have a discussion with real facts, and they won’t have regrets later. The goal of mediation is to stay out of court and make your own decisions. The more facts you have, the more likely you will be happy with your decisions later.

No! You can file for divorce after you have reached an agreement. Many people want to mediate their divorce but are unsure of the process. In New York, divorces must go through the court system, but if you have already executed an agreement the divorce can proceed as uncontested. Your paperwork goes through the court, but you don’t have to see the inside of the courtroom!

Yes! Just as children grow and change so can your parenting plan. In NY the standard for modification by a court is a substantial change in circumstances, and the best interests of the child. Mediation or negotiation can result in a change without having to go to court, however the modification document would need to be court ordered to be official. This can come into play for instance when one parent moves and both parents want the child to remain at their school. There are many other reasons for wanting a change in the parenting plan.

No! Many clients ask about this because they may have established a career or business with their currant last name, or they may want to have the same last name as their children for convenience. You may have the right to switch-but you don’t have to exercise it!

Yes! This concept is called full disclosure. During the divorce process whether litigated, negotiated or mediated, parties normally exchange financial documents. This is known as full disclosure. Parties can choose to waive full disclosure however that can be a mistake.

Yes! This concept is called nesting. Often couples who are splitting up want their kids to maintain some stability for a period of time, especially for instance if a child has a year or two left of high school. The concept of nesting where each parent moves in and out of the home rather than the children shuffling back and forth can work!

No! Although NY will recognize a common law marriage from another state. Although New York does not have common law marriage, the state will give full faith and credit to one from a state or country where it is valid and so long as you meet jurisdictional requirements you can get divorced here.

No! In fact, NY it is harder to get an annulment. Believe it or not, in New York an annulment can require a third party witness making it more difficult than a no fault divorce.

No! New York has automatic restraining orders in divorce to prevent just that! The automatic restraining orders in divorce preventing litigants from making changes to their assets during a divorce. The Plaintiff is bound when they file the divorce action and the Defendant is bound once they’re served.

Yes! You can include a visitation schedule and who pays for food and vet visits in your agreement.

Yes! 50/50 custody does not relieve the higher paid parent from supporting their children. In New York we have a formula called the Child Support Standards Act and both parents must contribute toward the support of their children even with 50/50 custody.

No! you are not divorced until you have your judgment! After the divorce agreement is signed, there are still several documents that need to be drafted, executed and filed with the court. Only once your judgment of divorce is signed are you actually divorced.

Yes! New York has specific residency requirements in order to file a divorce.

No! The mediator is a neutral who does not represent either party. Instead the mediator helps the couple reach an agreement based on what they think is best. Even if the mediator is also an attorney, the mediator can provide legal information, but not legal advice.

Yes! Both spouses need to fully participate in a mediation in order to reach an agreement. The mediation process is one of self-determination where the two parties make the decisions that work for them. If one party does not want to participate it’s the “sound of one hand clapping”.

Yes! This concept is called a Post-Nuptial agreement. There are many reasons a couple may wish to have a formal written agreement regarding their marriage, and it doesn’t always lead to divorce.

The current advance directives are no longer valid with regard to your former spouse. You can choose to execute new advance directives after the divorce naming your former spouse if you want to.

In NY, the child support formula, otherwise known as the CSSA, states that the non residential parent must pay support to the residential parent for food, clothing and shelter. A rough estimate for one child is 17%, for two children 25% of the income, etc. There is also an amount known as “add-ons” where there is discretion. This is usually for things like, unreimbursed medical, extra-curricular activities etc.

Child support ends when the child or children are emancipated, usually turning 21, getting married, joining the armed forces or working full time and living away from the residential parent’s home.

Usually, however the non-custodial parent normally gets a dollar for dollar credit toward paying for college room and board

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